We always protect our loved ones by trying to hide distressing and bad news from them, or at least for as long as possible. The reality is that this news, however distressing it may be, must be eventually told.
I am sorry for having to tell you that, but after a long and gracious battle with cancer, your Grandmother 'MadarJan' passed away at the hospital last week. She fought so bravely for so long, and she was so full of joy and hope for living that it is hard to believe she has passed away.
When one wins so many battles against an unbeatable enemy, however evident, loosing the war becomes hard to accept for those watching.
May her soul reach eternal happiness.
MadarJan may no longer be amongst us, but she will be with us in our hearts and she will remain alive through the memories she left for us. There is one memory in particular which I recall every time sadness of the loss overwhelms my emotions, the unforgettable smile on her face when she saw your photographs.
Thank you for making her dream of seeing you come true to the closest possible extend.
We Zoroastrians believe that it is the body that dies and the soul continues to live for eternity. The soul enters the body at birth and goes through a process of purification during our life time by being responsible for our Good Thoughts, Good Words and Good Deeds.
Death is considered the highest and ultimate point of the purification of the soul and therefore there is no reason to cry and moan but for our own loss. Instead we offer prayers and donations to help the soul on its journey of returning to its origin.
A very cruel example trying to explain this philosophy will be something like a bowl of water; imagine a glass being taken out at each birth and be put in a new born body during its life cycle. Then imagine after death the glass of water be returned to the bowl in a more purified form. The collective quantity of water remains the same for the ethernity and some or all of the same water which is returned to the bowl after the body dies may then be in one of the next takings from the bowl.
So, although there are moments when every now and then sadness of our loss overwhelms us in the form of short silence tears, generally we believe that we are being sad for our own loss as the soul of the dead continues to live for ever.
Where possible, we usually bury our dead the same or the next day and we hold prayers and offerings of food and fruits to help the soul on its journey back, on the evening of the third day, on the fourth day before sunrise, on the tenth day, on 30th day and every month then after till the first anniversary. Then we hold prayers every year on the anniversary day for a further 30 years. Specially on the 30th day and the first anniversary friends and family will be present during the prayers to pay their respects, wish the soul ethereal happiness or otherwise offer their condolences, say by a telephone call or a message.
In addition to the above, there is an earlier day that friends and family will gather to offer their condolences. For MadarJan we are holding this earlier prayers ceremony on Friday 11th ارديبهشت, today, between 2-4 at;
آيين پرسه روانشاد مهرانگيز خدابنده بهمردى (شناسا)
جمعه ١١ارديبهشت ١٣٩٤، بعد از ظهر ٤-٢
خیابان جمهوری، ( چهارراه ٣٠ تير )
خیابان میرزا کوچکخان،
کوچهي زرتشتیان، پلاک ٨
We all wish you a healthy happy life, your grandmother was wishing the same while she was alive.
MadarJan wanted to reply to you, she was waiting to get stronger before doing so, I guess she wanted you to remember her at her best. She have not lived long enough to recover sufficiently to be able to write a reply for you. Although we all know she loved you all your life to the end of her life, we will never know what would be the last words she wanted to write to you.