I am not alone anymore - I've joined a fantastic organisation offering a lot of support and advice to people like me, people who have been denied the right to see their children. They or rather I should say now WE are called Fathers 4 Justice.
For over a decade, Fathers 4 Justice has fought to ensure fathers play a fundamental role in the parenting of their children after parents separate. With the support of tens of thousands of fathers, mothers, grandparents and even children, they have campaigned to ensure that the best parent for our children is BOTH parents.
I have red lots of life stories of other members and I feel now that I am no longer alone. I am never going to give up on you and even if I don’t achieve anything now I hope one day you yourself will like to invite me to your life again.
Below I copied some views of my fellow members from Fathers 4 Justice Facebook support group. When I read this sort of comments I see that other people are in the similar situation and they don’t give up fighting for their right to spend time with their children, and as Martin said it should be ‘a GOD GIVEN RIGHT’.
"I have just joined Fathers4Justice and as a Single Father I am totally sick of the so called Justice system that ALWAYS sides with the mother. It has to be shown that it takes more than one person to make a child. I am running in the great Glasgow Scottish run on 4th September to raise awareness for Single Fathers. All I can say is I WILL NOT GIVE UP! It should be a GOD GIVEN right to spend time with your child and I will NOT be pushed away any longer. Seriously people that use their own children as a weapon. This is surely a crime in itself?" Martin Johnstone
"I am really pleased that the women who recognise and understand that fathers/grandparents/children are suffering because of the discrimination and injustice currently operating in family law courts are beginning to raise awareness and take action! Men are often perceived to be aggressive when they defend their rights (just because they are a man!) and if it takes women to defend these men to demonstrate that these assumptions should be dismissed then they need to help/support this campaign! Mothers & Fathers should be respected/treated with equal importance (neither is secondary); without either parent being able to manipulate the system legally or financially to their favour/advantage for their own particular needs. Too many women are looking for financial handouts from fathers to support their own life styles and it is wrong to use children to achieve this (they can find other ways to financially secure their own future if they try!). The children deserve the chance to have a relationship with both parents even if the two adults cannot be together. It is not always easy to achieve this; but in a previous relationship I managed it and I am evidence that it can be done for the sake of the children!" Luci Brown