I was thinking today that the saying that ‘sometimes bad things happen for our good’ is very true. It happens that from bad and unpleasant experience or situation something good and life changing comes out. And afterwards we realize that without this ‘bad thing’ our life would have not changed for better. I have experienced it in my life many times and I could describe here some serious events, but instead I will give you just a very trivial example how bad thing happening worked out for good at the end.
So, this is what has happened recently. Anna works a bit out of town and she travels to work every day by car. There are not many busses going to where she works and still from the bus stop she would need to walk by the road. It is a fast speed, 50mph road and there is no pavement there. You can walk on the road or trough the grass. Grass is usually wet at the mornings and there are some bigger bushes on the way, cars are passing by very fast, so it is not a pleasant walk and it feels unsafe. In general traveling by bus would be inconvenient and in addition quite expensive. So car is very important for Anna as a way of commuting to work. Couple of months ago Anna’s car broke down and in order to fix it without paying a lot she had to wait for the repair. She was really upset and worried how she will be getting to work. She loves what she does and she has to work in order to be able to support herself. The same day, a friend has lent her his car for a while. I think that was a very first good thing that came out of the fact that her car was broken – she realized that there are a lot of good people around her offering their help. It is always nice and uplifting to know that people care for you. So Anna had a car, but she was a bit reluctant to use it on a daily basis as it wasn’t her car. She decided that she will try to cycle to work. I have found out for her the best possible route by the canal with only a short stretch on a fast speed road and she started cycling. It took her an hour to get to work the first day, and she was sweaty, red on the face, tired and kept saying that she hates bikes. But she didn’t give up and decided to give cycling some more time to find out, if she really doesn’t like to do it. Slowly she developed some fitness, she cycles faster and doesn’t get so tired anymore. The journey takes now about 40 minutes. And what a journey it is!
You can see in the picture how nice the canal route looks like. It is green, peaceful and beautiful. Anna says these surroundings calm her down and bring some peace to her heart. There are ducks and swans, also tiny baby ducks in the water and at the mornings sleeping by the canal. Sometimes a rabbit passes quickly trough the path. Also you can see some squirrels and even rats. There is a lot of wild life around the canal. People are often walking there with their dogs, jogging or cycling. There are also boats on the canal with people living on them or traveling by boat on their holiday. When you are passing by, people say ‘hello’ to each others and smile at each others. Almost everyone will exchange a smile with you – it doesn’t cost anything and brings a good feeling. Anna says that she meets some of the same people on the way every day, and day by day they become friendlier, smile wider and exchange some greetings. People have their routines and when you see each other every day, you have a feeling that a stranger is not a total stranger anymore; it is the person you ‘know’ from your way to work. Anna enjoys her cycling now; she finds it as a very good, optimistic and peaceful start of a day. Although car has been now fixed she keeps cycling to work and she is grateful that the car was broken down, because it allowed her to discover cycling. It isn’t now a must but a pleasure and it would have not happened if the car wasn’t broken.
That is just a very small example how something bad worked out for a good at the end and made a positive change in the lifestyle. I believe there is a purpose in everything and even bad things happen to us for a reason – to make a change in our life, to change our attitude or to make us stronger and better prepared for life. It is easier to live a life happily knowing that there is a purpose in everything, even in suffering. I also believe that good things we do for other people, good energy, good thoughts, words eventually come back to us one way or another. The same applies to the bad things. Try to live your life in harmony and friendship with other beings, try not to harm anyone; smile at world and the world will smile back at you.
I cannot see anything good coming out from the fact, that bad people have separated us and don’t allow me to see you, but I want to believe there will be something good coming to us. There must be. Maybe not right now, but the good will eventually come and I hope our bound will be strong my darling Atria and I look forward to the day you will be able to decide for yourself, if you want to be part of my life.
I am your dad Atria.